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Homeschool Ideas & Tips Newsletter March 2005
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*** Hello from Charmaine ***
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Dearest Reader,
How are things going with you and your homeschool? Are you
feeling a bit stressed and exhausted this time of year? If
life in your home seems stressful and school just isn’t
going the way you feel it should, the first place to look
for possible reasons is the discipline factor. The way
your children respond to your parenting can make a huge
difference in the atmosphere of your home and the
effectiveness of your homeschooling. As I talk with many
of you in coaching sessions, I find that two of the biggest
challenges you have as parents are consistent discipline
and meaningful consequences. This month’s article deals
with consequences and I trust it will inspire you to be
creative and consistent with the consequences you give out.
Blessings on your day,
Charmaine
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*** In This Issue ***
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1. Ideas & Tips: Planning Consequences
2. What's New with Victory Coaching?
3. About Charmaine
4. Quote of the Month
5. Funny of the Month
6. The Small Print
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*** Ideas & Tips ***
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Planning Consequences
By Dr. Scott Turansky & Joanne Miller, RN, BSN
When giving out consequences don't think justice, think
heart change. This one truth can change the way you
discipline your kids. Many parents think, "Because you did
this, you deserve this." That kind of justice mentality
doesn't usually produce the desired results.
Consequences should not be viewed as a sentence for
committing a "crime," but rather as motivation to bring
about heart change. Consequences are tools to get a child's
attention. Then you can have significant discussions or
address heart and character issues. Here are some
suggestions for planning consequences:
The younger the child, the more immediate the consequence:
"Because you keep running away, now you have to ride in the
stroller."
As children get older, tie consequences logically to life:
"Because you're not finishing your homework assignments,
you'll have to get them checked each day by me." (Lack of
responsibility requires greater accountability.) "Rachel,
since you didn't listen to my warning, and you continued to
be wild and broke the lamp, I'm going to ask you to earn
the money to replace it."(When children are unresponsive to
words of correction, they need to experience the negative
consequences of their actions.)
You might ask yourself, "What privilege is my child
misusing?" to help determine the consequence. Tie
privileges and responsibility together: "Since you are not
sticking to the time limits we agreed upon, now you lose
the privilege of playing on the computer for awhile." "Jim,
because you left your bike out on the front lawn overnight,
you're going to lose the privilege of riding it today. You
know that if it gets stolen you won't have one to ride at
all."
When possible, choose constructive consequences: "Because
you continue to be mean to your brother, I want you to
choose three ways to show kindness to him."
This article was used with permission of the authors. For
more information on Effective Parenting, check out their
web site at: www.effectiveparenting.org
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*** What's New with Victory Coaching? ***
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I am currently preparing a workshop for the March 2005
C.O.R.E Homeschooling Conference in Duluth, Minnesota. The
workshop is called: How to Create a Family Vision Statement
& Homeschool Mission Statement.
I would be willing to also give this workshop as a fr*ee
Teleclass at the end of March. If you are interested in
participating in this Teleclass just send me an email
telling me so and I will contact you when it's scheduled.
Charmaine@victorycoaching.citymax.com
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*** About Charmaine ***
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Charmaine Wistad has successfully homeschooled her two
children from pre-school through high school. Now she is
turning her attention toward helping other homeschooling
moms.
Through regularly scheduled telephone coaching sessions,
Charmaine helps homeschool moms identify and define their
ideal homeschooling lifestyle, then make a plan and set the
realistic goals to achieve it. She also provides the
accountability necessary to carry through and have true
victory. Charmaine helps homeschool moms THRIVE - not just
survive.
Be sure to visit her website:
www.victorycoaching.citymax.com
You are invited to try a fr*ee no-obligation telephone
coaching session. You'll be amazed at how much can be
accomplished in just one session!
Email to request your fr*ee sample session at:
Charmaine@victorycoaching.citymax.com.
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*** Quote of the Month ***
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“Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are
too heavy to be broken.”
- Warren Buffet -
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*** Funny of the Month ***
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When my three-year-old son opened the birthday gift from
his grandmother, he discovered a water pistol. He squealed
with delight and headed for the nearest sink. I was not so
pleased.
I turned to Mom and said, "I'm surprised at you. Don't you
remember how we used to drive you crazy with water guns?"
Mom smiled and then replied....."I remember."
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***The Small Print ***
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If you enjoyed this newsletter, please forward it to
everyone you know. Thanks!
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Homeschooling Ideas and Tips Copyright 2005,
Victory Coaching
www.victorycoaching.citymax.com
All rights in all media reserved.
The content of Homeschooling Ideas and Tips
may be forwarded in full without special permission
provided it is used for nonprofit purposes and full
attribution and copyright notice are given. For other
purposes, please contact:
Charmaine Wistad
P.O. Box 343
Spooner, WI 54801
Charmaine@victorycoaching.citymax.com
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