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Homeschool Ideas & Tips Newsletter - Autumn, 2005
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*** Hello from Charmaine ***
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Dearest Reader,
Welcome to the Autumn Issue of my eZine. By now I'm sure
that most of you are into your homeschooling full-swing -
which probably means that you've had some wonderful
successful days as well as some frustrating futile ones.
Raising children is like that, isn't it? If you find that
you are struggling with more frustration than not, read on
and learn about that all-important "Action Point".
blessings on your day,
Charmaine
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*** In This Issue ***
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1.Ideas & Tips: What Cues Do You Give Your Kids?
2.Laugh Lines
3.Favorite Quotes
4.About Charmaine
5.The Small Print
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*** Ideas & Tips ***
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What Cues Do You Give Your Kids?
An Action Point is the point when you stop talking and
start acting or the point when children know you mean
business. How do they know? You give them cues and your
children know what those cues are. If you are saying the
same thing over and over again, how does your child know
when the Action Point is near?
Think back on your own childhood. How did you know when
your dad or mom meant business? Maybe they used your middle
name or started moving toward the kitchen where that
special utensil was kept. They might have gotten out of the
chair or started moving toward you or given you that look.
For many parents, angry words or a harsh tone of voice
become the cue children look for. Unfortunately, this
harshness creates distance in the relationship. Look for
ways to tighten your Action Point without anger.
Harshness isn't necessary but firmness is. Firmness with
children is an important part of the teaching process. Some
parents associate firmness with an authoritarian style of
parenting. And it certainly can be. We're not suggesting
that you become a sergeant with your kids. Even a
relational parenting style often requires a point in which
that child knows that the discussion is over and it's time
for action.
You might say, "Karyn, please turn off the TV now." The
child's name and the word "now" can become the Action Point
if the next thing you do is follow through and take action.
Or you might preface what you're going to say with the
words, "Karyn, this is an instruction."
Be careful of multiple warnings as they can weaken the
instruction process. One warning may be helpful to make
sure the child has understood the instruction but then the
next step should be a firm follow-through. If you tighten
your Action Point you will get angry less often and your
children will respond more quickly. Start by clarifying the
cues.
This tip was taken from the newest book by Scott Turansky &
Joaanne Miller "Home Improvement: Eight Tools for Effective
Parenting." It's a simple, back to basics book that
provides help for every family. Learn more at
www.biblicalparenting.org.
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*** Laugh Lines ***
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The following are some great answers given by school age
children to these questions:
How did your Mom meet your dad?
1. Mom was working in a store and dad was shoplifting.
What did Mom need to know about dad before she married him?
1. His last name.
2. She had to know his background. Like is he a crook? Does
he make at least $800 a year? Did he say NO to drugs and
YES to chores?
What makes a real woman?
1. It means you have to be really bossy without looking
bossy.
Who's the boss at your house?
1. Mom doesn't want to be boss, but she has to because dad
is such a goofball.
2. Mom. You can tell by room inspection. She sees the stuff
under the bed.
3. I guess Mom is, but only because she has a lot more to
do than dad.
What's the difference between moms and dads?
1. Moms work at work and work at home, and dads just got to
work at work.
2. Moms know how to talk to teachers without scaring them.
3. Dads are taller and stronger, but moms have all the real
power cause that's who you gotta ask if you want to sleep
over at your friend's.
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*** Favorite Quotes ***
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It takes a real storm in the average person's life to make
him realize how much worrying he has done over the squalls.
- Unknown -
When we long for life without difficulties, remind us that
oaks grow strong in contrary winds, and diamonds are made
under pressure.
- Peter Marshall –
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*** About Charmaine ***
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Charmaine Wistad has successfully homeschooled her two
children from pre-school through high school. Now she is
turning her attention toward helping other homeschooling
moms.
Through regularly scheduled telephone coaching sessions,
Charmaine helps homeschool moms identify and define their
ideal homeschooling lifestyle, then make a plan and set the
realistic goals to achieve it. She also provides the
accountability necessary to carry through and have true
victory. Charmaine helps homeschool moms THRIVE - not just
survive.
Be sure to visit her website:
www.victorycoaching.citymax.com
You are invited to try a fr*ee no-obligation telephone
coaching session. You'll be amazed at how much can be
accomplished in just one session!
Email to request your fr*ee sample session at:
wistad@chibardun.net
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***The Small Print ***
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If you enjoyed this newsletter, please forward it to
everyone you know. Thanks!
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Victory Coaching
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